You don’t owe anyone your company. If you don’t want to spend time with people, don’t. Maybe they’ll be disappointed or hurt, but it’s not your job to put their feelings above your own. Life is too short to put everyone above you. Take care of yourself. You’re just as important.
If you think “alternative” beauty means over 100 pictures in a row of white, skinny girls who happen to have chosen to dye their hair and get piercings and tattoos, then I think you are deeply embedded in the exact mind set you so proudly say you have have risen above.
Eagleton, Terry, Why Marx Was Right (Yale University Press, 2011) p.5 (via fuckyeahdialectics)
And this is why I get pissed off when.. I talk about equality, and someone says “YOU WANT EVERYONE TO BE THE SAME”. No, that’s not how it works, and I’m sick of explaining it.
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Every language has its own version of um. French has euh, Korean eum, Finnish öö, Russian eh; even sign languages have signs for um. The fact that most languages have some kind of um suggests that it serves a natural and important language function.
So what is this important language function? Why do people say um? Not because they are nervous. Scholarly studies of the word reveal that the use of um does not correlate with anxiousness or any particular personality traits. Rather, um is used to signal an upcoming pause—usually uh for a short pause and um for a longer pause. The pause may be needed in order to find the right word, remember something temporarily forgotten, or repair a mistake. Um holds the floor for us while we do our mental work. It buys some time for thinking.